You’re the proud mother of a child and you want or expect another baby … But despite the happiness of a new pregnancy, many fears haunt you … The emotion will she go to? Will you have enough love for two children? Will you have enough time?
Very often the mothers, when they want to have a second child, through a period of questioning at the time of the decision or during pregnancy. They wonder what they will experience during this pregnancy, how to love the new baby as much as the first, how do we share this love between children, will they love them so much? All these questions are also upset in their heads and fill with apprehension and uncertainty …
1. Less emotions and feelings?
Madam, you simply can not imagine a different relationship than you have with your first child: he has already taken such a place in your heart and in your life that you want to know what will happen with the second. The first pregnancy was so rich in emotions and discoveries, it will inevitably be different. You are afraid not to feel such strong feelings: this pregnancy will she too nice?
Your first pregnancy will always keep in your memory the original place, one where you first experienced the changes in your body and feel your baby moving inside you. Everything was new, it was magical. The second pregnancy will inevitably be more serene experience removes the anxiety of the unknown. Bodily sensations and emotions that had invaded you will nevertheless always present.
The relationship whatsoever is between the father, the first child and you in anticipation of the birth of little brother or sister will be a new experience. It will cause further disruptions in your emotional life. The magic is always there but speak differently.
2. Not enough love?
Love is extensible! You’ll love all your children, but not in the same way. It is legitimate to love their children differently, they do not have the same character and your more or less strong affinity with them follows. It may well happen that we feel very close to a child at certain times and less in others, or that another character is closest to your own sensibility. There’s nothing to feel guilty, one important thing: none of your children should feel privileged or preferred over another.
From that love follows a daily experience that will be different with each of your children. Your choice of business with one or the other or both will be decided according to your tastes and interests.
3. Not enough time?
The love of a mother can not multiply, but his time and his availability for the child. This is also the anxiety that can hide behind some fears. Mothers who wonder, often confused, and without the knowledge, love and presence, they have spent and still spend so much time they first wonder if there will be much or somewhat for the second.
Certainly, the arrival of another child again causes changes in the organization of family life.Initially, the mother, who must deal with more of the second child, is worried about the reaction of the first and wondered how long it will devote. But the occupation change with age and daily organized quickly.
At two or three years, the senior can participate in daily life and care of the baby. The mother, with her two children, will organize its activities according to age faster than she thought, her love and her time will share naturally.
Do not forget Dad! It may, too, care for the elder or toddler. Remember that you are not alone. In any case, remember to spend time with each. This will minimize the problems of jealousy and your children know they are unique to you.